The summer holidays have a way of disappearing all at once. Late mornings, sticky ice creams, no alarm clocks. And then, seemingly overnight, it’s uniforms, name labels and “have you seen my other shoe?” again. If the back-to-school switch feels sudden, that’s because it is, but a little planning goes a long way.
Whether you’re the one packing the lunchboxes or the one eating them, here’s something that can help.
Tips for parents
Ease back into a routine
Let’s start with the obvious one: routine. Bedtimes and wake-ups have probably drifted (no judgement, it’s the summer holidays), so ease them back gradually over a week rather than shocking the system on day one. Mealtimes are worth the same treatment, all that summer grazing doesn’t exactly match the school day.
Check the school website or planner
It’s worth checking the school website or planner ahead of the first day. Term dates, uniform lists, and any last-minute changes are usually posted there, and it saves a scramble later in the week.
What to do if your child is anxious about going back to school
A few nerves before term starts are completely normal, even for kids who usually love school. Rather than asking “are you worried?”, try something more open like “what are you looking forward to?” It gives them room to talk without feeling like their feelings are being flagged as a problem. Often, just being heard does more than any reassurance you can offer.
Plan the school run
Whether it’s walking, driving, or public transport, doing a trial run of the journey (or timing it out) removes one thing to worry about on day one.
Look after yourself too
You’re allowed to find this transition tricky as well. New routines take a few days to bed in for parents as much as children, that’s completely fine. Go easy on yourself if the first week isn’t picture-perfect, it rarely is for anyone. Keep your expectations realistic, and give yourself the same patience you’re offering your child.
Tips for children
It’s okay to feel nervous
New teachers, new classrooms, new timetables, a few butterflies are completely normal, even for kids who’ve been at the same school for years.
Give yourself something to look forward to
Try to find one thing you’re genuinely excited about. A favourite lunch, a new pencil case, wearing those new shoes you picked out, or seeing a friend again on day one, small things count for a lot.
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Take charge of one small thing
Packing your own bag or choosing your outfit the night before can make the first day feel a bit more like it’s yours.
Share what’s on your mind
If something’s bothering you, say it out loud. Parents, teachers and friends can only help if they know what’s going on, and most worries feel a lot smaller once you’ve shared them.
Reach out before the first day
A quick message or a summer catch-up with a school friend can make walking through the gates on day one feel a lot less daunting.
Back to school tips for tweens (8-12 Years)
This age group often has a slightly different back-to-school experience. Friendships matter more, homework often steps up a notch, and moving into a new year group can bring its own quiet worries about fitting in.
Parents, try trading the general “how was your day?” for something more specific, like “who are you sitting with this year?” It tends to open the door a little wider.
And if you’re 8 to 12 and reading this: chances are half your class is feeling exactly the same way, even if nobody’s saying it out loud. A new year group usually feels a bit strange for a week or two — that’s completely normal, not a sign anything’s gone wrong.
Make it a team effort
Back-to-school runs a lot smoother when it’s not falling on one person. A quick chat about who’s doing the school run on which days, or getting siblings to help each other sort bags and homework, spreads the load and makes the whole week feel more manageable.
Final thoughts (settling back in)…
For most families, the first week back is the hardest bit, and it genuinely does get easier from there. A steady routine, a few honest conversations, and a fair bit of patience will carry you through.
Here in Berkhamsted, Hertfordshire, term will find its rhythm again soon enough, and before you know it, the next school holiday will be back on the calendar too.
FAQs
Most children settle within one to two weeks. The first few days are usually the hardest, and a predictable routine at home helps speed up the adjustment.
Around a week before term starts is ideal. Gradually shifting bedtimes, wake-up times and mealtimes gives everyone time to adjust without a sudden shock on day one.
Uniform, school shoes, stationery, packed lunch essentials, and a checked school website or planner for term dates and any last-minute updates are the key basics to sort in advance.
Look out for changes in sleep, appetite, or mood, reluctance to talk about school, or physical complaints like tummy aches before school days. If these persist, it’s worth speaking to their teacher.
